Have you ever wanted to know if the person flirting with you has feelings for you, or are they just being friendly? Maybe you start talking to someone, but instead of saying they like you, they are just trying to send some signals through their subtle signs.
Having a crush is exciting for sure, but it can also feel a little unclear. Sometimes, we let our feelings go unspoken because we end up questioning everything and still don’t know exactly how they feel about us.
None of us is born with mind-reading powers, so how can we know for sure that someone has a crush on us? To gain some clarity on your crush dilemma, here are some subtle signs that are pretty universal.
1. They look at you
Do you notice that they look at you more often? Or have you noticed their daring eye stare, constant glances, or a shy peek once in a while? If so, it communicates a lot about their desire, and they can’t stop looking at you at every possible chance they get. You’re the center of their attention, and they will be your most loyal watcher.
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin also found evidence for this fact. He discovered that the people in love usually look at each other 75% of the time; among others, it’s around 30% to 60%.
This fact is also true for social media, and the person who has a crush on you most probably will follow you, or they may send you a bundle of likes or interesting comments no matter what content you share.
2. They try to get close to you
Do they show up at places you’ve been known to frequent? Or show up at places you say you’re going to? Most probably, there are just there for you, and even if they don’t have anything to say to you, they like having you in their proximity, and it’s quite natural.
3. They want to connect with you
Another definite sign that someone may have a secret crush on you may try to touch you accidentally, or they may find innocent reasons for that. For example, “Hi, have you seen this dog hair on your sweater? Let me help you to clean it before the class.” Sometimes they may ask for your number or follow you on one of your social media accounts.
Likewise, your crush will bring various reasons to connect with you, such as they may want to borrow something from you or show you something on their phone. They may even go out of their way just to see you or catch your attention and start a conversation with you because they like you and find you fun and interesting to talk to.
4. They keep the conversation going
Another way to know someone has a crush on you is by looking at their conversation eagerness. Do they usually text you or call you up first? Or do they try to keep up the conversation by bringing questions or some exciting things forward? If so, here’s another trick you can use to see if someone is secretly crushing on you.
The next time you connect with that person, exit the conversation for a short time. For that, you can check your phone, go to the washroom or call someone else.
While most people will leave politely almost immediately, someone who has a crush on you will likely keep trying to talk to you. They want to spend more time with you as possible, so they may wait eagerly to reengage in the conversation or ask to connect later even when you’re interrupted, or you have to leave.
5. They are too curious about you
Have you remembered the conversation you had with this person? Do they seem to ask a lot of questions about you? For example, hidden areas about your life, your likes, and dislikes, your points of view, or how you feel about things. Using questions, they may be hiding their true feeling behind their curiosity.
6. They smile more around you
Another sign that someone has a crush on you is that they’ll smile at you more than they do around other people. It could be a bashful little smile, showing that they are nervous but happy to see you, or a wide one. Whichever it may be, that conveys their excitement being around you.
You have to pay attention to their smile and try to find out whether or not they smile this way only when they see you, talk to you, or talk about you. If so, it shows that they might have a crush on you.
7. They compliment you a lot
Do they seem to go the extra mile to pick something nice to say to you? Do you feel they wouldn’t take that effort unless it weren’t you, or do they overly compliment you about your looks, values, judgments, or even the little things?
Compliments may seem like an obvious sign because we usually see them as a sign of friendliness instead of a romantic interest, but it may have come up as a fact that they pay such close attention to you in the first place just goes to show how much they like you.
8. They protect you
Another sign that someone has a crush on you is they always try to protect you or help you even without you asking them first, and they’ll be there for you if they hear something wrong about you.
When someone shows interest in your well-being or looks after you by asking questions to know your feelings or if you need anything, it is really lovely, but this could be easily mistaken with a caring friendship. So you have to observe them very closely to know the truth.
Does this person protect you in a way they aren’t with anyone else? Or will they always be willing to go an extra mile just to see you happy? Do they often buy you unexpected gifts? If so, then they may have a crush on you.
9. They change their body language
Another way to tell that someone has a crush on you is by looking at their body language, which can give you more information than they would like because people are generally pretty open when it comes to body language. Most people don’t know how to control it, so it subconsciously gives away how they feel.
• Are they can’t break eye contact with you? • Are they closer to you while seated? • Are they blush or stutter when chatting to you? • Are they touching their hair a lot? • Are they biting their lips slightly when looking at you? • Are their gestures open and welcoming? • Are their pupils expand or appear larger • Are their knees pointed in your direction under the table
All those signs can be considered as a measure of their attraction toward you and when you truly want to know that someone has a crush on you, pay close attention to their body language. Remember the old saying, “The body doesn’t lie.”
10. They remember little things about you
When it comes to love, no detail is too small or too big to remember. People who care about you will try to remember things about you. Not just your birthday, but they know the little things like you can’t stand the sound of twigs breaking.
When someone remembers something unique about you, it feels good as long as it doesn’t cross any boundaries, and when you seem to end up telling yourself, “Wow, I can’t believe you know that,” chances are, they have a crush on you.
11. They get jealous
When you hang out with friends, do they ask you who will be there? It may seem unnecessary, but subtly, they could be asking because they want to know if you’re interested in anyone else.
Have you ever felt that they’re bringing up attractive people who are interested in them, or do they seem to be trying to make you jealous? It’s because they want to confirm that you care about them. Don’t forget that we all are humans and are not perfect, so we all get jealous and overthink things just like everyone else.
12. They make themselves available for you
Last, but perhaps most importantly, making time for someone and prioritizing them in your life is something we only do for the people we really like and care about.
If this person always tried to support you or stand by you even when there’s no need for it? Or do they ever go above and beyond for you? Or do they cancel or reschedule appointments just to be with you? If the answer is yes, then they have a crush on you, so you are really important to them, and they would rather spend time with you than do anything else.
13. They tease you playfully
Have you noticed that they tease you in a fun way? Not mean teasing, but the kind where they’re making jokes about you that make you laugh instead of hurt your feelings. This is actually a really common way people show they like someone because it gives them a reason to interact with you.
They might make fun of something you said or do, but it’s always in a sweet way where you can tell they’re not trying to be mean. And usually, they’re the only ones who tease you like this while everyone else treats you normally.
14. They mirror your actions
This one happens without them even realizing it. When someone has a crush on you, they start copying the way you move or talk without knowing they’re doing it. If you cross your arms, they cross their arms. If you lean forward, they lean forward too.
This mirroring thing is something our brains do when we really like someone. It’s like their body is trying to connect with you on a deeper level. So if you notice someone doing the same things you do right after you do them, they might have feelings for you.
15. They find excuses to be alone with you
Do they always suggest hanging out just the two of you? Or when you’re in a group, do they try to separate you from everyone else? Maybe they offer to walk you to your car or ask if you want to grab coffee before everyone else shows up.
Someone with a crush wants your attention all to themselves. They don’t want to share you with other people because they want to get to know you better and have deeper conversations without distractions.
16. They act different around their friends when you’re there
Have you noticed that when you’re around them and their friends, they act a little different? Maybe they’re trying to be funnier or cooler than usual. Or maybe they get a little quieter because they’re nervous about what their friends might think or say.
Sometimes they might even get a little embarrassed if their friends start acting silly or saying something they think might make them look bad in front of you. This shows that your opinion matters to them more than other people’s opinions do.
Final thoughts
So, have you noticed someone showing these signs before? Do you think someone in your life may be secretly crushing on you? Think about how you feel about them before you discuss the topic with them. If you don’t have the same feeling like them, try to let them down as easily as you can.
But if you’re lucky enough to have mutual feelings, you should count yourself lucky. Talk to them about it, and if they still don’t dare confess to you, then be the one who makes the first move. After all, life is about taking chances and pursuing the things that make you happy.