Have you ever achieved something you really wanted? Maybe you worked hard for years to get that dream job, buy that car, reach that goal. And then when you finally got it, something felt… off?
You thought you’d feel amazing. You thought everything would change. But after a few days or weeks, that thing you fought so hard for became normal. Just another part of your life. And you found yourself chasing the next thing.
Does this sound familiar?
Let me tell you something – until you actually achieve something, you can’t understand that it won’t make you as happy as you thought. Only people who’ve reached those goals know this truth. Everyone else is still believing the dream.
The Problem With Chasing Goals
Think about it like this. You see someone who has a BMW or who went to the top of the Eiffel Tower, and you think, “Once I have that, I’ll be happy.” But when you get there? It’s not what you expected.
I’ve been there too. The experience wasn’t as amazing as I thought it would be. You know that saying about distant drums sounding sweet? That’s exactly what this is.
Right now, millions of people are watching videos or reading articles about success, thinking “BMW means everything” or “that achievement would change my life.” But for the person who has it? It’s normal. Maybe it felt special for a few days when they first got it. But then it became just another thing.
Here’s what actually happens: you need to see desire and achieve desire. Without that, something inside you dies. That’s why I always tell people in my sessions – don’t jump straight into spirituality when you’re twenty years old.
Young people ask me, “I want to focus on spiritual growth.” And I say, do your career first. Do what you need to do in this world first. Achieve things at a reasonable level. Then, when you’ve done that, you’ll be ready to sit down and seriously ask: “What’s beyond all this? Is there any happiness that actually lasts? Not temporary happiness that comes and goes, but something real?”
Because we have worked for years to achieve our goals. Years of effort. And does the happiness from achieving them last a few days? That’s not a good deal.
Way #1: Set Realistic Goals and Keep Evolving
So what’s the intelligent way to live?
This question only makes sense if you’ve already achieved what you set out to do at a reasonable level. Not if you’ve gone to extremes thinking, “I got a car, now I need a private jet.”
Let me tell you something about private jets. People who’ve never flown private talk about them like they’re magical. But small private planes are noisy. They’re not more comfortable than business class or first class. And they cost way more. So why not just fly business class?
If you set realistic expectations in your mind, you’ll quickly realize what actually matters and what doesn’t. You’ll achieve your goals faster and move past them faster, too.
But Don’t Stop Setting Goals
Here’s the key – your next goals should be at a different level. Don’t just repeat what you already did.
For example, if you got a BMW, your next level isn’t getting a Ferrari or a Lamborghini. That’s just the same goal repeated. That’s living life in one dimension – comfortable living.
Ask yourself instead: “What can I model?” Maybe your path shifts from achieving things to creating things from consuming to contributing.
Look at your own journey. Where did you start? Where are you now? What did you discover about yourself along the way?
Way #2: Know When to Change Direction
Sometimes you have to decide – do I keep pushing where I failed, or do I change direction completely?
Here’s what you need to understand: you have to figure out what you actually want from life. Not what everyone else is doing. Not what looks good to others. What’s right for you.
For example, I tried modeling. I quickly realized I couldn’t have someone – a director – sitting over me telling me what to do, how to do it, when to do it. I knew that whatever I did, I would do independently.
So I did everything else independently after that. Nobody told me, “You have to do this, you can’t do that.” Acting and modeling were problems for me because of the directing. Someone else is calling the shots.
That’s when it became clear – why be an average actor when you can be an extraordinary director? Why follow when you can lead?
How Do You Figure This Out So Young?
People ask me how I figured all this out at a young age, how I gained these experiences and insights that some people never get, even at seventy or eighty years old.
Here’s my answer: all solutions are inside you, not outside. My focus isn’t on what’s happening in the world – what’s happening in history or other countries or with other people.
You can ask me about world events, and honestly, I don’t know much. I don’t know what’s happening out there. But if you ask me what’s happening here – inside – I know.
This is like the microcosm and macrocosm. The universe is a macro version of what exists inside you at a micro level. If you understand the micro, you understand the macro too.
I haven’t mastered this. I’m still doing it. That’s important to understand – this work never ends. I’m exploring it continuously. All the different dimensions, all the layers – subconscious, thoughts, emotions, psychology, philosophy, scriptures, consciousness, awareness.
Every question about existence ultimately comes back to you. Your entire world rests on you. Everything in this universe, in some way, connects back to you. And you’re not small – you exist on a whole different level.
Way #3: Find What You’d Sacrifice Everything For
If you asked me what I’d sacrifice for this exploration of consciousness and understanding, I’d say everything. Without a second thought. Everything.
What does “everything” mean? Exactly what you’re thinking. Everything.
That’s what passion is. When your passion is somewhere, there’s no limit to how deep you can go. And passion can also create wealth.
But here’s the difference – you can’t force passion. You can’t create it artificially. Passion isn’t superficial like “I watched a motivational video and now I’m inspired.” That’s motivation from outside, with rewards and punishments attached.
Real passion is inspiration from the inside moving outward. Nobody’s forcing you. There’s no “if you don’t do this, this will happen” or “if you do this, you’ll get that.”
What If You Haven’t Found Your Passion?
Many people don’t know what their passion is yet. That’s okay.
You can divide your life properly – this is my profession, this is my passion. Get excited about your profession too, but not to the same percentage as your passion.
Some people haven’t discovered their passion yet. So what do you do? You keep looking. You stay aware. You pay attention to what pulls you, what makes you curious, what makes time disappear.
The signal will come. It might not be obvious, but if you’re paying attention, you’ll notice it.
Being Human Means Something More
What does it mean to be human? Just work, earn money, eat, sleep, have kids, and repeat until you die? Animals do that too.
Being human means something more. It means exploring things about yourself and about existence that most people never think about. It means going into dimensions and discovering things that you didn’t even dream of being possible.
Who was I ten years ago, and who am I now? Completely different. Not just “I’m older and I achieved some things,” but different. I mean, fundamentally, completely different – like two different people.
For most people, life changes over ten years, but it changes along the same line everyone else is on. At twenty, you focus on your career. At thirty, you focus on marriage and kids. At forty, you worry about your children’s future. That’s the river everyone’s flowing in.
Step Out of the River
Imagine there’s a river with 7 billion people flowing in it. Most people are in that river, swimming, struggling to survive. They can’t see anything except the water around them and the struggle to keep their head up.
But you can step out of the river. When you’re outside it, you can see what the river is made of. You can see where it’s going. You can see that you’re not separate from the river – you’re made of the same thing.
When you start asking these kinds of questions, and the answers start coming from inside you, that’s when you find something that lasts. Not temporary happiness. Not excitement that fades. Something everlasting.
Nobody can take that away from you.
The Bottom Line
Real happiness doesn’t come from achieving goals, though you should still achieve them. It doesn’t come from comparing yourself to others or chasing what everyone else wants.
It comes from three things:
Set realistic goals and keep evolving. Don’t chase the same thing at bigger levels. Move to different dimensions of growth.
Find your real direction. What’s right for you, not what’s right for everyone else. Be willing to change course completely if that’s what it takes.
Discover what you’d sacrifice everything for. When you find that passion, that purpose, that question that pulls you deeper – follow it all the way down. That’s where lasting happiness lives.
Everything else is just temporary. Everything else is just the river carrying you along with everyone else.
Step out of the river. That’s when life really begins.
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